This was part of my horoscope today –

If you’re feeling stuck in a rut right now, one of the best things you can do is let go of any grudges you’ve been holding — you’ll feel as though you’ve just attached a hundred helium balloons to your soul. Holding on to memories of how you were wronged isn’t going to make things right again. Forgiving (or at least forgetting) will. Move forward, and leave the wrongdoers in your past, where they belong.

My brother and I sometimes laugh about our mother and grudges. She always points out when other people hold them, but can never see her own negativity. Of course, like we all do, I have taken on certain traits of my mother’s — I have been focusing lately on what I’m not getting out of different relationships and friendships, instead of what I am.

Step One in Be Good to Monique year was joining Weight Watchers (down another 2.4 lbs. today). Step Two is accepting the gifts of the people in my life and not wanting more or less than they can give. Now, that doesn’t mean that I’ll take whatever I get. It means that if I know someone is only capable of giving me X, I’m not going to expect X + 1. Like, I’m thinking of one friend that I could call at 3 a.m. if I needed a ride home but not if I wanted sympathy over a bad day at work, because his strength is is doing, not in being. And there’s another friend that always come through in a crisis for me — when I really need emotional support — but we get on each other’s nerves during the down times.

What can you let go?