Today was my first interview for the internal position I applied for in my department several weeks ago. The other candidates will have a phone interview, but I had the luxury of an in-person meeting … with my boss and two of the co-workers I work closest with. It was kind of awkward, but I did my best to hit on all of the important points, despite being more casual than I normally would be, if I hadn’t worked with these people every day for 2 to 3 years. I asked my boss to list her ideal skill set for this position and aside from having actual industry experience, I fit all of her qualifications, and told her so and told her how. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve become more comfortable tooting my own horn, so to speak. If I move on to the next round, the interviews will be the week after next …

On to the asshat … I mentioned the other day that this guy I went out with 3 or 4 times in Jan. 2005 e-mailed me over the weekend. Things fizzled out, and on his end, it ended up being because he was seeing someone else, decided to become exclusive and didn’t know how to tell me. What-evah. That point aside, I wasn’t too irked because, hell, it was two years ago. At my mother’s urging — and hell, what good ever comes of listening to my mother — I e-mailed him back. He replied today.

Now, mind you, I got the impression he was looking for a hook-up. I didn’t put out then and I had no intention of doing so now. But I am a hell of a charming dinner companion and shoot, a free dinner is a free dinner. And honestly, I didn’t remember much about him. Anyways. In my e-mail to him, I said, “So I guess things with that other girl didn’t work out, huh?” It seemed cute at the time, ok?
Ok. Here’s the first part of his e-mail.

“I am still dating her actually. Lately I have been really close to ending it so I have been keeping my options open. Don’t get me wrong I am not one to date around or cheat behind someone’s back but if it gets to the point I want to date someone else I would definitely let her know. I figure talking to others is ok.”

I have been keeping my options open? You don’t “keep your options open” after dating someone for that length of time. You fix the relationship or you break up. Oh my god. I have no idea what he remembers about me that makes him think I’d be down with this. And “talking to others is ok”? I don’t think the ladyfriend would appreciate him going through his e-mail address book to find old “friends.”

And this totally creeped me out — he asked if I still lived in the same apartment complex! Ummmm yeah. We’ll just act like this never happened and I never got any of his e-mails and maybe he’ll just go away ….

I bet I could find a pithy response somewhere on the web … at my renter’s, perhaps? Do pay him a visit. He’s Canadian. They are a very polite people, as a rule. When I was in Toronto years ago, I was lost — and a man in a shop gave me directions. Accurate, safe directions. More than 10 years later, I’m still marvelling at the experience. And wondering why Molson taste better up north.

∗ Posted by Monique on 09.20.2006
∗ Misc. Dates, Work