Comments on: Crumbs and Expectations http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/ When we were wired, the world was like a secret. -- Matthew Good Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:01:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Superstar http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/#comment-415 Superstar Mon, 05 Jun 2006 20:36:00 +0000 http://whenwewereliars.com/?p=312#comment-415 I agree, I work 2 jobs and have 1 day a week that I have to myself, I try and not plan anything on that day except me time. I work a night job on the weekends, so dating needs to be a bit more creative than a Friday or Saturday night at the bar... If he is only sending you text msg...LOOOSE him. He is 1/2 azzing his way in the dating world. If he is texting you things like, cant wait to see you, then that is cute and sweet. What happened to the men that would open my door (not that I can't, it just good mannors) pay for the meal he asked me out for and invited engaging questions for conversation.??? Im' w/ you I would rather be alone than deal w/ the dating BS that gets in the way of getting to KNOW the other person. While I realize there is SOME give and take it needs to be shown on an equal level or it's just not worth my time. Don't look back w' your co-worker. She is a user and like in 13going on 30 "Tom Tom" will get what is coming to her! Thanks for having me here on your blog! ;) I agree, I work 2 jobs and have 1 day a week that I have to myself, I try and not plan anything on that day except me time. I work a night job on the weekends, so dating needs to be a bit more creative than a Friday or Saturday night at the bar…

If he is only sending you text msg…LOOOSE him. He is 1/2 azzing his way in the dating world. If he is texting you things like, cant wait to see you, then that is cute and sweet.

What happened to the men that would open my door (not that I can’t, it just good mannors) pay for the meal he asked me out for and invited engaging questions for conversation.???

Im’ w/ you I would rather be alone than deal w/ the dating BS that gets in the way of getting to KNOW the other person.

While I realize there is SOME give and take it needs to be shown on an equal level or it’s just not worth my time.

Don’t look back w’ your co-worker. She is a user and like in 13going on 30 “Tom Tom” will get what is coming to her!
Thanks for having me here on your blog! ;)

]]> By: kat http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/#comment-414 kat Mon, 05 Jun 2006 17:07:00 +0000 http://whenwewereliars.com/?p=312#comment-414 well aurelius, i have had that scenario happen to me. in those instances i don't raise a fuss at all; i just don't make future plans with the individual. i want an equal partner and nobody fussy as well. i guess it's just a differing point... well aurelius, i have had that scenario happen to me. in those instances i don’t raise a fuss at all; i just don’t make future plans with the individual.

i want an equal partner and nobody fussy as well. i guess it’s just a differing point…

]]> By: NML http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/#comment-413 NML Mon, 05 Jun 2006 14:47:00 +0000 http://whenwewereliars.com/?p=312#comment-413 Hi, i found you via Grins and this post resonated with me a lot. I have learnt the hard way that a guy that is worthy of your time is one that will put in the effort. Text messages are a source of major irritation and they have become a very poor substitute for real communication. At the end of the day, guys don't need to spend months or years even to decide if they like you or to decide when they want to make the effort. They just do. I'm glad that you aren't willing to accept the crumbs as that's half the battle :-) Hi, i found you via Grins and this post resonated with me a lot. I have learnt the hard way that a guy that is worthy of your time is one that will put in the effort. Text messages are a source of major irritation and they have become a very poor substitute for real communication. At the end of the day, guys don’t need to spend months or years even to decide if they like you or to decide when they want to make the effort. They just do. I’m glad that you aren’t willing to accept the crumbs as that’s half the battle :-)

]]> By: Aurelius http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/#comment-412 Aurelius Mon, 05 Jun 2006 03:04:00 +0000 http://whenwewereliars.com/?p=312#comment-412 I hate to say this, but the whole 'keeping promises' thing is a major part of how I understand the playing of 'the game.' I want a companion who will be an equal. Not someone who is needy or clingy. To test this, I make plans with her and then call her about fifteen minutes before to blow it off - always with the lamest excuse, 'I just don't feel like it, talk to ya later.' If they go ballistic, I figure I'm dodging a bullet. My current friend said, 'whatever, I've got some friends who wanted to go out tonight anyways.' We've been inseperable ever since. I hate to say this, but the whole ‘keeping promises’ thing is a major part of how I understand the playing of ‘the game.’

I want a companion who will be an equal. Not someone who is needy or clingy. To test this, I make plans with her and then call her about fifteen minutes before to blow it off - always with the lamest excuse, ‘I just don’t feel like it, talk to ya later.’

If they go ballistic, I figure I’m dodging a bullet. My current friend said, ‘whatever, I’ve got some friends who wanted to go out tonight anyways.’ We’ve been inseperable ever since.

]]> By: kat http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/#comment-411 kat Mon, 05 Jun 2006 02:17:00 +0000 http://whenwewereliars.com/?p=312#comment-411 the whole "keeping promises" is essential for me and anyone i'm considering beign friends or more with. If someone breaks a promise...ooooo. not good. also, i don't even bother to have a cell phone. if someone wants to call me i have a home phone with an answering machine. then again i don't get many dates...which could be seen as not wasting my time i suppose. congratulations on elevating your standards! it's always a good idea. the whole “keeping promises” is essential for me and anyone i’m considering beign friends or more with. If someone breaks a promise…ooooo. not good.

also, i don’t even bother to have a cell phone. if someone wants to call me i have a home phone with an answering machine. then again i don’t get many dates…which could be seen as not wasting my time i suppose.

congratulations on elevating your standards! it’s always a good idea.

]]> By: Izzy http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/#comment-410 Izzy Mon, 05 Jun 2006 01:03:00 +0000 http://whenwewereliars.com/?p=312#comment-410 I was even shocked by that one and I was the one living it and then to have followed it up with the Sir William episode, I thought OMG maybe I have finally learned a lesson or two...of course the other one, sort of ruins that theory but two out of three ain't bad! At this point...I'm beginning to realize that I deserve a hell of alot more than what has recently been offered but the hurdle I have to overcome, is having enough patience to wait for it and enough good sense to recognize it when it finally arrives. I was even shocked by that one and I was the one living it and then to have followed it up with the Sir William episode, I thought OMG maybe I have finally learned a lesson or two…of course the other one, sort of ruins that theory but two out of three ain’t bad!

At this point…I’m beginning to realize that I deserve a hell of alot more than what has recently been offered but the hurdle I have to overcome, is having enough patience to wait for it and enough good sense to recognize it when it finally arrives.

]]> By: Mr. Fabulous http://whenwewereliars.com/2006/06/04/crumbs-and-expectations/#comment-409 Mr. Fabulous Sun, 04 Jun 2006 23:26:00 +0000 http://whenwewereliars.com/?p=312#comment-409 Well, you certainly deserve more than crumbs, my friend. And if I were younger, and you were older, and we lived somewhere else, and I wasn't married and a bunch of other things were completely different...I still wouldn't be the one to do it because you would probably still be out of my league LOL. Thanks for the lemur email, though. We'll always have that :) Well, you certainly deserve more than crumbs, my friend. And if I were younger, and you were older, and we lived somewhere else, and I wasn’t married and a bunch of other things were completely different…I still wouldn’t be the one to do it because you would probably still be out of my league LOL.

Thanks for the lemur email, though. We’ll always have that :)

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