So Scott and I have been out on three dates plus the initial Starbucks meet-and-greet. That’s three nice dinners together, with four cocktails, one glass of wine and one dessert also consumed by me — and I haven’t paid a dime. Of course, I’ve invested time in cleaning my apartment prior to my date and in looking nice myself, but my actual cash outlay has been limited to a grande non-fat, no-whip mocha the night we met, a six-pack of Heineken (his beer) to have on hand and a box of brownie mix. I’d say he’s probably spent at least $350, probably more, and hasn’t asked for a thing in return.
Damn. So what the hell have I been whining about???
What is freaking me out about this whole thing is — of course — my ex-husband. Near the end, he and I rarely had sex and when we did, it was only me who did the initiating. I am so afraid of being in another relationship where sex is doled out only on rare occasions that I have gone overboard trying to find a man who is desperate to sleep with me. And while Scott has made a few comments — his jaw dropped when I mentioned my beloved leopard shoes and, after he recovered, said, “Wow. Wow. Will you wear them if I beg???” — it’s clearly going to be a loooong time before we end up in bed together.
Oh, last week I was annoyed because he e-mailed me Sunday then didn’t reply until Tuesday. Long story short, he had tentative plans to meet his brother, who lives in NYC, in Chicago this weekend for St. Patrick’s Day. But those plans fell apart on Tuesday, so he waiting to see how that all shook out before he made plans with me. Fine, sounds reasonable lol.
Update … He just called. : ) Oddly, my phone didn’t ring and I only received the message notification. Anyway, he reiterated that he had a really nice time last night and suggested lunch one day this week (as I won’t be able to have dinner b/c of the second job). I called him back and we talked for a few minutes. This all seems kind of old-fashioned, especially for me. I’m content now, my whining aside, with him taking the lead. I’m just going to sit back and see where he goes …
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Sounds like we’re dating the same guy. LOL
Comment by Some Girl - March 19, 2006 4:59 pm
Are there really this many girls out there starving for sex? Can I get some of your numbers?
Comment by Dr. Blogstein - March 19, 2006 7:50 pm
You know what’s really funny? I dated so many guys in the first few months after my divorce (we were separated for a year, and I never dated during the separation, so it’s not like I just rushed out there)…but none of them really clicked with me.
Then I met my current boyfriend and all my dating rules flew right out the window. He was that great, and it was that right. You’ll find him.
Comment by Trouble in Shangri La - March 23, 2006 10:04 pm