So yesterday Jesse sent me the following e-mail:

First things first, I will be home tonight from Jersey. Let’s just say, I won’t miss it. However, it wasn’t all bad. One of the reasons I had to come to New Jersey was to meet my new boss. Our offices are experiencing growth and they are promoting me into a more regional role. Which brings me to the discussion of our time together. Let me start by saying that I am sorry. First, I hate having to write this out, but phone discussions are no more fun and this way I can take my time and say everything I need to say. Also, it is definately my fault for not being able to get together for dates. I have biten off more than I can chew right now. Unfortunately, this new position is going to take even more of my time. And ultimately, time is the only constraint our relationship seems to have. (My fault on that one of course)
As far as our time together; I have a great time with you. You are intelligent, fun, and have alot to offer a guy. To boot, you are beautiful and bring an energy to the table that is hard to find. I do want to say that I appreciate your honesty and maturity in this situation. Like you said, it has been a couple of dates. However, to me, we connected very quickly and seemed to have a great start. Talk with you soon. — Jesse

Well, damn.

This was my response:

Hi Jesse — Thanks for the e-mail. I understand about your work situation and know that, unfortunately, work sometimes has to come first. It can be difficult to find enough time in the week to fit in everything you want to do and everyone you want to see. I think that’s one of the ironies about being single: You try to make your life fulfilling as it is but then when you meet someone, how do you make room for them? It’s definitely a challenge …

Okay, enough philosphy. : ) The bottom line is that, yes, it can be fun to jump right into something and fall head over heels, but those are the relationships that generally don’t last. I’d rather move more slowly, get to know each other and see where things go. One thing I like about you is this air of fun and spontaneity that you have, and while I sometimes come across as somewhat reserved, I wouldn’t be opposed to a last-minute date at Starbucks for hot chocolate (okay, I know you hate Starbucks but you know what I mean) — although I do have some cute new clothes I’ve been itching to wear that would be a bit much for a coffee shop lol.

Thanks for the compliments … and in case you were wondering, I am looking forward to picking up where that quick kiss in the truck-stop parking lot ended. ; ) (You really surprised me with that, by the way — I hope I didn’t look too shocked!).

Give me a call when you get the chance and we’ll see how our schedules match up.

What I get from his e-mail is basically “I can’t promise anything but I like you …” I still have a good feeling about this. Besides I have another date (possibly two) tomorrow to look foward to … coffee w/ Mark II and a lunch date with Ryan (yes, THAT Ryan) …

∗ Posted by Monique on 11.18.2005
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