The Rotation

So a few of the “dating” books I bought after my divorce talked about this concept called the “rotation.” The gist is that you date a few men, ideally three, once a week. It is supposed to stop you from getting too serious too fast. Who the hell does this work for? I can hardly find one guy to date, let alone three!

I called Jesse Sunday night. Yeah, I know I said I was going to wait until Tuesday, but I decided I wanted to talk to him instead of play more games. He sounded happy to hear from me, and told me so two or three times. We talked for probably 30 minutes … he apologized up front for taking so long to call me back and actually sounded a little peeved I waited until Sunday night to call him lol. He told me about his week at work, and having several new projects thrown at him. He mentioned again going out and we made plans for this Sunday (he’s going to a football game on Saturday). He kind of annoyed me but for no specific reason; I’m not sure if it was really him or me. I guess I’ll figure it out when I see him.

I was kind of complaining about him to my wise friend, who pointed out that not many guys ask a woman on a date a week in advance. “And he told you he was going to be really busy!” chimed in another friend. I was like, fine, be the voices of reason lol.

Mark, this guy I’ve been trying to get together with for like a month, called Sunday while I was out and about and we also talked for about 30 minutes. We made plans to meet next week for a drink. I’m looking forward to meeting him. He seems like an interesting person, someone I’d like to know.

To round out the trio, I heard from Ryan Sunday night, too. He found my profile on match.com lol. He said he created a profile expressly to “wink” at me. Whatever. We got to talking about dating and I told him about some of the guys I’ve gone out with. I think he was surprised at the quantity, but he needed to know that I’m not hanging out, waiting for him to grow up. He asked about Jesse, although not by name; I said we had gone out a few times and will again. I mentioned that Jesse and I went to an art/antique mall on a date and it was fun.

Later in the conversation, Ryan wanted to make a wager about the outcome of an upcoming football game between his favorite team and my alma mater. (His team is ranked much higher than mine.) He thought a while as to what he wanted if they won (I disallowed sexual favors) and he said he would like to go to the ANTIQUE MALL with me. How f-ing weird is that, to want to go someplace I just went with another guy???? If my team wins, I just want him to make me dinner!

God help me, I still have a soft spot for the jackass. My problem is that I still remember the insane physical attraction between us … I need to feel that with someone else. At any rate, I clearly have a major effect on Ryan, that he’s willing to keep coming back … I will date him but only if he plays by the same rules as the other suitors. But not sleeping with Ryan is going to take a major effort on my part. I can’t explain it, it’s like I am magnetically drawn to him. He kisses me and that’s it. Maybe Jesse will finally make a move on Sunday. It’s been a while since I’ve kissed someone new … oh God, besides Ryan, I haven’t kissed anyone since May.