What is with boys and phone “problems”?

First there was MJCF, whom you’ll remember from a few posts ago. He NEVER once answered his phone when I called (which, really, wasn’t all that often … but still!). Either he was in a bar and didn’t hear it ring/feel it vibrate, or he swore on all that was holy that the phone was right next to him and it did not ring. Whatever.

So now his sorry ass is out of the picture and now potential new guy (PNG) #1 is on the scene. PNG1 is one of the aforementioned “bagel boys,” as he’s about four years younger. He e-mailed me last week after seeing my profile/pic on a well-known dating site. His e-mails were actually well-written and referred to things in my profile and prior e-mails I sent, plus he is funny and cute, at least in his photos. Anyway, after a few e-mails back and forth, he sent me his phone number, so I thought, what the hell, and called. No answer. It rang about a zillion times and I finally got his voice mail. That was Wednesday night.

No return calls or e-mails Thursday or Friday … Finally, Friday afternoon I e-mailed him, basically saying, did you get my message?! I figured if I didn’t hear from him, he was no longer interested for whatever reason.

He e-mailed me back, saying he had been having a lot of problems with his phone and didn’t know he had any voice mails until he took the phone in for service. My first thought was, whatever, you lying sack of shit. But then I remembered the residual bitterness from MJCF and thought that may be clouding my judgment …

A few months ago I went out with this guy, DLS (doctoral-level student) a few times. We had a great connection on the phone — we’d talk for two hours at a time — but in person he turned out to be whiny and needy. So I’m a little gun shy about spending a lot of time talking on the phone when we could just meet for a drink after work. That’s exactly what I suggested to PNG1 in an e-mail this morning.

I’ll forgive the phone incident — as long as it doesn’t happen again. I’ve learned that a man who is interested will reach a woman no matter what — hell, I once had a guy call me four times a day from California while he was out there for business; each time he had a break, he was on the horn to me for a few minutes at a time — and excuses at the beginning do not bode well for any future relationship.

So if PNG1 balks at the drinks idea, then … NEXT! But I hope not. It’s only mid-July, not too late for a summer romance …

What I’m Listening To Today:
“Hole in the Head” and “Too Lost in You” by the Sugababes. Check ‘em out if you like sassy girls. You know you do.

∗ Posted by Monique on 07.16.2005
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